WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW BEFORE YOU START ANY RELATIONSHIP. PART 1
Love they say is blind. In fact I grew up to meet this popular saying but what amazes me most is the irony of the saying. I think a blind person should be the most cautious less he adds to his disability. But the saying has always implies love neglecting some things that may be of great importance and pretending it does not matter whereas it does. And this we see, is contributing to the high rate of divorce, single parents in our society today. Therefore in order not to fall victim of such vices, there are things you need to know before you start an intimate, soul tying relationship.
Many a times I see young people in a long time relationship with little or no knowledge of something that is of great importance as regards to the success of their relationship, so if things should go haywire in anyway you see them going gaga. This could be brutal or even deadly.
Proverb 13:12
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but dream fulfilled is a tree of life.
This is the reason why this publication is coming at this season. It has been divided into parts with each part discussing one salient point. Let’s get started with the first.
COMPATIBILITY
Many of us in relationship check all kinds of compatibility but always neglect one very important one until few days, weeks or months to wedding day when our churches ask for it. So when we now go for it and discover the non compatibility, some will go to the extent of lying about it. This compatibility I’m talking about is the blood compatibility.
When it comes to marital matters the blood grouping that is most essential is the genotype kind of blood grouping which could either be AA, AS or SS. An individual falls into one category, that is you can either be AA or AS or SS. The S implies the type of red blood cell that is sickle in shape instead of the normal spherical shape of red blood cells. So when someone is SS he or she only has the sickle red blood cells which make blood movement through the blood vessels cumbersome leading to health attacks of different kinds on the individual. Such individuals are referred to as a sickler because they often have health challenges. This condition is not funny at all as it is resources consuming as well as time consuming.
That is why this should be avoided from the foundation which is choosing who to marry. If you are AA then you can marry any person but if you are AS or SS then it is a must that you marry an AA so as to completely eradicate the chances of giving birth to SS. It is therefore important you know your genotype before falling in love and if you happen to be on AS side like me, then you really have to be choosy. Some people out of pity or because they feel like they can’t go back on their decision go on and marry and at the end of the day regret it.
Well you may want to tell me you have seen a family who happens to be AS for both husband and wife and yet non of their kid is SS or you may want to tell me you will involve God. Yes it could happen that way but the question is what if yours turn out not to be that way? Also remember God is also involved in what I am telling you now. He is the Almighty and non can question Him. He decides to do a thing and He decides not to too. In addition to that, God gave us brain so we can give him rest over some certain issues. Don’t be blinded by self-centeredness and selfishness in the name of love. Remember it is God who made this possible for discovery so you don’t fall victim. Don't leave your life to chance.
Proverb 25: 2 (MSG)
God delights in concealing things; scientist delights in discovering things.
Let him that has ears let him listen to what the spirit is saying to the church. Shalom.
Written by
Charles Ogbanu
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